Welcome to the blog.
This is a place to process the “hard stuff” we feel from a biblical perspective. No churchy lingo. No judgment. All honesty.
Boundaries Around the Holidays
So, the holidays are here. That can either bring up positive or negative feelings for you. Fighting, rude comments, and invasive inquiries are all part of the holiday season hustle and bustle for some people. The holidays can be difficult whether you’re married, single, or widowed.
He Said, She Said (Part 3): 4 Practical Ways to Avoid Gossip
So, you’re around someone who wants to gossip. What do you do? It can be difficult to go against the crowd and not participate in gossip, but here are four practical ways to do it. This is part 3 of a gossip series.
He Said, She Said (Part 2): The Ultimate Guide For Identifying Gossip
Gossip almost always leaves a lasting, negative effect. It’s hard to scrub off, it’s hard to forget, and it leaves an impact on both the person you’re gossiping with and the person you’re talking about. How can we identify gossip?
He Said, She Said (Part 1): Moving From Gossipers to Good Neighbors
A few years ago, a new friend invited me to lunch. Well into the conversation, she looked at me and said, “So, the reason I invited you to lunch is to talk to you about something,” in a very serious tone. My stomach dropped. What could I have possibly done wrong already in this newly developing friendship?
They Can’t Be Your Everything: Support vs. Sustenance
Growing up in a broken home caused me to look for love, affection, and validation in other people. Because my parents didn’t need my emotional needs, I tried to get them met in all my friendships. This led to unhealthy attachment, particularly codependency. I became a leech to everyone I was attached to.
The Breakup No One Talks About
I started seeing a therapist because this friendship in particular brought out some very ugly parts of me that needed healing. I was raised in a home that didn’t talk about mental health issues. It was considered taboo and weak. But I was determined to break that stigma.
To The Girl Who Prefers Guy Friends
I was addicted to the way positive words from guys made me feel. It was like they had something to offer that women couldn’t. I didn’t see the value of friendship with women because I honestly thought they couldn’t offer me much. Women brought the exact same thing I brought to the table, so what did I need them for?
Codependent, much?
Quite often I used to find myself in “situationships” and friendships with guys who loved parts of me, but only the parts that benefited them. It honestly used to feel “good.” I was super broken with (clear) identity issues. But I was getting the attention I desired, so I overlooked the warning signs that I was becoming extremely codependent. I felt like I was valuable because they would give me words of affirmation, seek my advice, use my creativity, or want to spend time with me.